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Maybe Online Dating Isn’t For Everyone

Posted by Judy Ramsook on July 27, 2009

I have always believed that trust is something that should be earned over time. Because it requires time. Time to see if you feel comfortable  and safe  enough with that person to trust him/her.

And when the internet  was gaining popularity in the mid to late 90s up to  the present, something else started happening. There were programs known as  online chat rooms and instant messenger ones that gained popularity as well.

A thought provoking thing was also occurring. Some young girls and women who chatted with people they came across in a few of those chat rooms decided to meet in person. Sometimes these meetings worked out well, and other times some of those girls and young women ended up being assaulted, killed, maimed or physically hurt. And for a while, due to the negative aspects of these meetings, I  did not want to enter the online dating realm.
Who can you trust when just about anyone can hide behind a username, computer and  internet chatroom?

But  I would  succumb. Because the guys I tried to date out here in the real world, not the virtual one, were not really working out for me.

And after looking at a few dating websites’ commercials, I thought I  would give it a try. After all, after you sign up, enter a photo and fill out a questionnaire, these websites are  supposed  to fix you up with someone you’re most compatible with, right?

I  was in for a little surprise. The first guy I communicated with on there seemed all right, and after the second date, I thought  this might be the one.

I did not hear from him for a couple days so  (ignoring the if he doesn’t call you it means he’s not into you rule)  I  got in touch with him and asked  if something was wrong? He answered with. It’s nothing personal, but he did not get any chemistry with me.

When it’s a matter of chemistry, it is personal, isn’t it?

Date number two. First  of all, I was fooled by the online photo. Because the online photo of this guy made him seem healthier. Surprised to see that was not the case when I did meet him in person, he told   me most of the things a guy might tell a woman if all he wants to do is get her in his b_d.

Guys number three and four were more or less the same. But they got  to the point right away, like on the first date. They wanted  to take me to their place to see if we were sexually compatible.

I have paused the dating scene for now. I might never find the one I am looking for and like someone  told me, hey, maybe love  and longterm relationships aren’t for everyone.

As for the trust issue. I think I am less trusting now than I was before I began dating guys online. If all they’re looking for is a quick s_x  fix, they definitely had the wrong girl when they decided to go out with me.

If online dating has worked for you or anyone reading this, good for you and I wish you well.

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Legend Of Zelda: Spirit Tracks

Posted by Judy Ramsook on July 26, 2009

I must  admit that  the  first time I  saw someone playing a Legend Of Zelda  video game, then played it myself,  I was taken in.

Taken in by the fun game play, collecting rupees, exploring dungeon after dungeon, defeating the villains or boss monsters, rescuing in game characters and ultimately,  Princess Zelda, herself.

One  Legend Of  Zelda game after another, it never got old or boring. There were times that I did get tired of going to the Temple Of  The Ocean King in LOZ, Phantom Hourglass  though.

But not even that discouraged  me from wanting to press on and finish the game that is now  high on my list of the Legend Of Zelda video games.

And  by the time it was all over, I got used to travelling with Link on that ship. I wanted more. I wished there was perhaps one more dungeon to explore or more treasures to find  with the crane.

My suspense is probably about to come to an end. For when I first heard of  another  Legend Of Zelda  game for the Nintendo DS, I was so surprised I took to doing a little research.

And yes, there is another Legend Of  Zelda video game  coming out for the Nintendo DS. This one,  as many of you LOZ fans already know of, is titled: Legend Of  Zelda Spirit Tracks.

Although it sort of picks up from where Phantom Hourglass ended, this time Link is on dry land and is travelling around on a train.

He is not alone though. Remember the Phantoms from Temple Of The Ocean King? One of them is with Link in a more, shall we say,  helpful capacity.

From what I can deduce, so far, he, the Phantom,  helps Link solve puzzles and so on. For example, the Phantom might stand on one switch while Link is on another which triggers a locked door to open etc.

I  can hardly wait to play LOZ Spirit Tracks which is due out in December 2009 or later this year.

It will certainly be a different departure from seeing Link washed up on shore or traversing the LOZ video game  world  by ship.

Or maybe there’s just something about trains that sound kind of adventurous.

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India: Democracy versus Mobocracy and Gandhi by Gandhi Scholar: Dr. Ravindra Kumar

Posted by Judy Ramsook on July 9, 2009

The roots of democracy in India are very deep. Probably it is India where democracy started functioning first. It is evident from the existence of institutions like Sabha, Samiti and Viditha in the Vedic era. Afterward, the existence of many republics during the time of Gautama Buddha and Shakyamuni’s advocacy in favour of democracy, his stress upon development of democratic institutions and noteworthy suggestions made by him in this regard strengthens India’s claim to it.

Generally, the democracy is recognized as a political institution. On the basis of it a political system of governance is conducted. But, in ancient times, the Buddhist assemblies in India have worked successfully in a democratic manner. Hence, it has been more or less applied in religious sphere also. From this the significance and relevance of democracy for India can be well understood.

We can firmly believe that democracy is the best form of governance for a country like India. Along with political field there is a possibility of its functioning in economic and religious fields. We can assert this for the reason that India is a country of diversities and its unity is possible only by a democratic system of governance.

Democracy versus Mobocracy

Mahatma Gandhi, himself felt the importance and necessity of democracy for India, despite its being liable to be greatly abused. That is why; he emphasized upon its constant development and maturity. Through this he wished transformation of his dream of Ramarajya into a reality. In the Ramarajya of his imagination each and everyone, weak or strong, gets equal opportunity to rise and his security and honour are guaranteed. In short, Gandhi’s Ramarajya is an advanced form of democracy.

Now, the question arises, is there a possibility of transformation of Gandhi’s dream of Ramayana or an advanced form of democracy into a reality? If yes, then when? In this respect Mahatma Gandhi himself was not sure. Hence, he was not puzzled on these hypothetical questions. He knew that a human being always commits mistakes knowingly or unknowingly. He was also aware that one cannot get rid of them immediately and completely. Similarly, a manmade institution, it doesn’t if it is a democracy, can also not become free of evils entirely and right away.

Therefore, Mahatma Gandhi, along with other necessities, particularly stressed upon discipline, equal respect of law by all and priority to social will over the individual will in a democracy. He was of the opinion that indiscipline, disrespect of law and priority to the individual will over the social will are among the main causes behind evils in a democracy. So, it is necessary to minimize them for making the democracy disciplined and enlightened.

Moreover, Mahatma Gandhi laid great emphasis on a healthy public opinion and expressed the need for responsible representation. The reason being if public opinion in democracy is not healthy and matured it can be converted into a mobocracy instead of giving strength to it. On many occasions and at different levels this can be observed in many counties of the world including India.

Similarly, if representatives in a democracy are not responsible, they weaken it instead of becoming its defenders. Sometimes it can also be experienced particularly in India. Therefore, Mahatma Gandhi called upon the people to reduce possibility of abuse in democracy to the minimum from time-to-time. He time and again emphasized upon making democratic system of governance firm, healthy, disciplined and responsible. Mahatma Gandhi’s call to save democracy from becoming a mobocracy and to make it people-friendly and finally transforming it into a Swarajya was, and is, worth giving a thought.

Despite the large number of people coming together mobocracy can never be the reflection of a democracy. Due to lack of discipline and control over the crowd a mobocracy cannot transmit the will of the people. Hence, a mobocracy sometimes becomes more dangerous than a dictatorship. That is why; Mahatma Gandhi also said, “They [who are in a mob] have no mind, no premeditation. They act in frenzy.”

How can a democracy be devoid of mobocracy? How can it be transformed into a real people’s rule? How can it become a Swarajya? Mahatma Gandhi was of the opinion that it was possible through the process of constant reforms in democracy and not in avoidance of it and that too in accordance with demand of time and prevailing circumstances. Simultaneously, for the rise of the institution of democracy he rightly called upon the people to carry on their duties and to maintain discipline.

In this process he further spoke about people’s awareness: it meant people’s consciousness of their duties, rights and responsibilities towards the nation. For, he fixed the responsibility of people’s representatives on the one hand and the government on the other. He opposed the idea of such a democracy in which a handful of representatives, it doesn’t matter if they are elected for a fixed period by the people itself, sat at the centre to work for it. Through that the real aim of democracy can never be achieved; the system cannot become a self-rule. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi himself:

“Democracy cannot be worked by twenty men sitting at the centre. For, it has to be worked from below by the people [consciously] from every village.”

Conclusion

Undoubtedly, Gandhi’s stress upon an alert democracy is vital and significant. We should see no reason for an institution of democracy becoming unhealthy if its holders are disciplined and responsible. If citizen are conscious enough the democracy will definitely step forward towards a true self-rule. A disciplined, responsible and conscious democracy can become a true government of the people. Such a rule can turn into a Swarajya and can pave the way towards the Ramarajya of Mahatma Gandhi’s imagination.

Hence, Gandhi’s views regarding a democracy cannot be taken slightly. They must be analyzed minutely. An open debate on the vitality and relevance of them in the current perspectives should be organized. If they seem relevant as per the demand of time, they should be examined and adopted.

Today the whole world is looking at Ahimsa-based ideas of Mahatma Gandhi. Particularly, institutions of higher learning are making critical analysis of his views on democracy. In such a situation the relevance, significance and utility of his ideas for India can be understood thoroughly.

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*Dr. Ravindra Kumar is a renowned Gandhian scholar, Indologist and writer. He is the Former Vice-Chancellor of the University of Meerut [India], and the Editor-in-Chief of Global Peace International Journal.

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More Media Coverage, Michael Jackson Or Farrah Fawcett

Posted by Judy Ramsook on July 5, 2009

Not too long ago, give or take a few years, some people fussed over who got more media attention over whom.

Say, for example, we had news item number one. A non white female turns up missing or worse, her body has been discovered. News item number two. Similar situation, the only differences are, the victim is a white female from an affluent background.

Most times, the one from the affluent background ended up getting more media coverage. But when you have two celebrities dying on the same day, one Farrah Fawcett whose battle with Cancer was a painful one and one Michael Jackson who died suddenly, one might wonder, what gives with the media attention.

And how is one to share the media coverage here? It didn’t take long to realize that  nothing was shared here. The one star once famous for her role as a ‘Charlie’s Angel’ got a few mentions here and there.

But the one with the more glamorous and  controversial lifestyle, Michael  Jackson,  got and up to this day is still getting more coverage.

Farrah Fawcett’s funeral was a quiet  one. Michael Jackson’s,  which   will  occur next Tuesday, July 7th 2009 is set to be a  huge event with a Memorial Service at the Staples Center in LA.

An event many fans will be left out of due to the space at the facility and an internet drawing, something like a lottery. His funeral will be televised, hers was not.

I liked Farrah Fawcett. I thought she deserved more coverage than she got. I also liked Michael Jackson for the musical genius that he was.

But when you have  Michael Jackson, the mega star also  checking out from this world on the same day as you, Farrah Fawcett,  someone who was best known for her role on  “Charlie’s Angels’ what’s a person to do.

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